I remember my grandfather when his hip had become faulty. With each passing day his appearance deteriorated and he would look older, though he was a man who was strong through hard work and never retired. At any rate, I gradually grew accustomed to seeing the old man. At length came the point at age 80 when he could not farm, do mechanic work, or build as he used to. It was time for a new hip. I wanted to be with him for the operation and sat in the hall as the hip was replaced. After what seemed like an eternity, they let me go in his room, and I was shocked at what I saw. He looked twenty years younger! I had mistakenly thought his drawn face reflected who he was, but when the pain lifted, he was a new man. I could not believe he had grown so accustomed to the pain, especially since he never even took an aspirin and always said he felt great. The pain of the hip had been so much greater than the pain of recovery that he actually felt better already while still in recovery.
We may suffer pain for years, and in the end, there will be a pain associated with recovery, but we can remember it is not as great as the pain that preceded it! Whether a divorce from a marriage which had spiraled into abuse, a death of a loved one who struggled with addiction, or a departure from ongoing rejection, the recovery is much more pleasant than the constant daily pain that came before. Apparently we can become so accustomed to such situations that we get numb to the pain associated with them. The events leading up to the operations God performs in our lives are more hurtful than the stinging recovery that ensues. When any of us are suffering from recovery, remember that we have the witness of many believers who have gone ahead: There is life after suffering. Also, let our history with the Lord, as well as the encouraging history of others, carry us. Remember, the purpose of life is to know Him; that is an absolute. We will know Him in a good marriage, a bad marriage, divorce, and post marriage. We will learn of Him even after sin, for children who rebel return to walk with God. There is no waste in God. Everything is for our good.